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Re: Something to consider
From: Patrick <patrick@desireecapuano.com>
To: Desiree Capuano <desiree.capuano@gmail.com>
Date: Mon, May 11 2015 11:41:27 am
I shall.

On 05/11/2015 11:30 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
> keep telling yourself that :)
>
> On Mon, May 11, 2015 at 11:24 AM, Patrick 
> > wrote:
>
>     Desiree:
>
>     Which is exactly what you say when you have no choice but to
>     realize you are wrong and your argument has no merit.
>
>     Good enough for me.
>
>     Patrick
>
>
>
>     On 05/11/2015 11:03 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>     Not worth a defense little man.
>>
>>     On Mon, May 11, 2015 at 11:00 AM, Patrick
>>     > wrote:
>>
>>         Desiree:
>>
>>         You seem to not understand the difference between "opinion"
>>         and "fact".  It might be my "opinion" that you are a bad
>>         parent and terrible person, but the points which I have
>>         provided as the basis of that opinion are all facts.  And,
>>         otherwise, everything else I referenced are also facts, not
>>         opinions.
>>
>>         It is impossible to rationally debate with a person who is
>>         incapable of distinguishing reality, and who refuses to use
>>         the proper definitions of words.
>>
>>         Patrick
>>
>>
>>
>>         On 05/11/2015 10:48 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>         To each their own. You're allowed to have your own
>>>         opinion...but that's all it is. Your opinion.  Have a super
>>>         awesome and wonderful day!!
>>>
>>>         On Fri, May 8, 2015 at 9:09 PM, Patrick
>>>         >
>>>         wrote:
>>>
>>>             Hello, Desiree!
>>>
>>>             I was going through your old emails, looking for
>>>             particularly interesting ones to highlight on the
>>>             website, and I came across this one. Now that some time
>>>             has passed, and the world has had a chance to see how
>>>             much of your words you actually follow through on, I'd
>>>             like to review some of your statements.  Please see my
>>>             comments, inline.  I've highlighted the relevant
>>>             statements to which I am responding.
>>>
>>>
>>>             On 02/17/2013 10:34 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>>             Hi,
>>>>
>>>>             I want to throw something out there - I want to propose
>>>>             something and I would like for you to consider it.  We
>>>>             can continue to go back and forth, tossing this poor
>>>>             kid between home, between states in this hostile
>>>>             environment for the next...however long. But the truth
>>>>             is - its exhausting (you can't tell me it's not). As
>>>>             well, G***** will turn 18 in 6 short years. *You and I
>>>>             have very different lifestyles but as I've told him -
>>>>             neither one is wrong - it's just different.*
>>>             I disagree.  I believe your way of life is wrong - very
>>>             wrong!
>>>             - You use drugs;
>>>             - you don't provide guidance and direction to your children;
>>>             - you're irresponsible;
>>>             - you blame others for everything that's wrong with your
>>>             life;
>>>             - you take responsibility for absolutely nothing;
>>>             - you put your desires before the well being of your
>>>             children;
>>>             - you think that providing the basic necessities of life
>>>             (food, clothing and shelter) are the only obligations
>>>             you have to your children;
>>>             - you put your boyfriends before the needs of your children;
>>>             - you tell your children that marijuana is good and that
>>>             one day they'll learn to appreciate it;
>>>             - and on and on.
>>>
>>>             So NO, you are absolutely wrong when you say "neither
>>>             one is wrong".  Your way of life is absolutely,
>>>             unquestionably wrong.  It is a sickness and a blight on
>>>             society (not just you, all trashy people).
>>>
>>>
>>>>             * Regardless of what you may think of me personally, I
>>>>             am a great mother, I am an excellent mother to our son.*
>>>             You've had 2 and a half years to prove that you're a
>>>             good mother, yet you've done *nothing* with that time!
>>>
>>>             You've had two and a half years to prove that you're a
>>>             good parent and you've done absolutely nothing!  G*****
>>>             has learned nothing from you and his life is in no way
>>>             enriched or better from the 2.5 years he's spent with
>>>             you.  You think that taking him on vacations to meet
>>>             your family is significant?  You think that will make
>>>             him a better person?  Come on!
>>>
>>>             Go on then, prove me wrong. How have you improved
>>>             G*****'s life?  What has he learned from you, other
>>>             than the kind of women to stay away from?  Is he more
>>>             honest and reliable since staying with you (No, he
>>>             flakes out of a band performance without notice, he
>>>             hides his school information when his grades decline, he
>>>             keeps secrets from both of us).  Has his school
>>>             performance improved?  No, it's gotten worse!  Does he
>>>             stick to something that he shows an interest in?  No, he
>>>             fiddles with it for a while then gives up on it.  Is he
>>>             able to do normal day to day things on his own without
>>>             depending on an adult to hold his hand?  No.  It seems
>>>             the only things he's improved on are the things that I
>>>             teach him and push him to do when he's here.
>>>
>>>             Am I wrong?  Do you have any evidence to the contrary?
>>>
>>>             You have him covered on your medical and dental
>>>             insurance and I'm willing to cover all medical costs yet
>>>             you still don't take him to the doctor or dentist for
>>>             regular checkups.  Does he have any cavities?  You have
>>>             no idea. Is his blind eye developing properly?  How
>>>             should you know?
>>>
>>>             And you have the nerve to claim you're an "excellent
>>>             mother"?  Bitch!  Even *MY* mother provided me medical
>>>             and dental care (albeit at the government's expense, but
>>>             still).
>>>
>>>>              I never speak badly of you, I encourage him to say
>>>>             whatever is on his mind and when he tells me things
>>>>             he's done with you or things he remembers with you I
>>>>             always listen - I even try to remember good or funny
>>>>             times you and I had and I tell them to him.
>>>             Really?  From what I'm told you don't tell him shit. And
>>>             when you occasionally do share stories with them they're
>>>             usually made up.  I hear about them and he has internet
>>>             access.  It's not hard to verify some of what you tell him.
>>>
>>>             From what I'm told you rarely give either him or Sage
>>>             the time of day.  And when you do it's almost always
>>>             about something you want to do and you want to drag him
>>>             along.
>>>
>>>>             *All I want is time to know him.*  I don't want money
>>>>             and I don't care about "winning" in court.
>>>             Really?  Then what is all this bullshit you've been
>>>             pulling for the past 3 years? Then why have you
>>>             repeatedly asked the court to prohibit all communication
>>>             between him and I.  Then why did you withhold my letters
>>>             to him when I was in custody?
>>>>
>>>>             There was a time that you considered my offer to help. 
>>>>             I'm proposing almost the same thing now.  Let me keep
>>>>             him during the school year for now.  Let me have time
>>>>             with him and you can do what you need to wherever it is
>>>>             that you plan on settling.  I will not interfere with
>>>>             you talking to him and as soon as you're ready we'll
>>>>             work on getting him to see you - maybe you pay for a
>>>>             flight out and I pay for a flight back.  I have no
>>>>             doubt that you will land a good job and probably be
>>>>             making more money than my conservative salary - which
>>>>             means neither of us will need money from the other.
>>>>
>>>>             As a safe measure for you (as I'm sure you would need
>>>>             it to trust me) if I fail to follow through on what I
>>>>             promise - if you feel your not seeing him enough,
>>>>             talking to him enough, or don't agree with the person
>>>>             he grows into while being with me you can always take
>>>>             me back to  court and have the judge return him to you
>>>>             - you and I both know that the judge (for whatever
>>>>             reason) is in your court (so to speak).
>>>
>>>             As I've said recently, the only time you're amicable or
>>>             cooperative is when you believe the court (or some other
>>>             authority) is going to go completely against you. You
>>>             sent me this email when you found out I was released
>>>             from ICE custody and you were sure the court was going
>>>             to order you to return G*****. As soon as you were
>>>             confident that wasn't going to happen you went right
>>>             back to being hostile.
>>>
>>>             Patrick
>>>
>>>
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