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Re: Something to consider
From: Patrick <>
To: Desiree Capuano <>
Date: Mon, May 11 2015 11:24:36 am

Which is exactly what you say when you have no choice but to realize you 
are wrong and your argument has no merit.

Good enough for me.


On 05/11/2015 11:03 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
> Not worth a defense little man.
> On Mon, May 11, 2015 at 11:00 AM, Patrick 
> > wrote:
>     Desiree:
>     You seem to not understand the difference between "opinion" and
>     "fact".  It might be my "opinion" that you are a bad parent and
>     terrible person, but the points which I have provided as the basis
>     of that opinion are all facts.  And, otherwise, everything else I
>     referenced are also facts, not opinions.
>     It is impossible to rationally debate with a person who is
>     incapable of distinguishing reality, and who refuses to use the
>     proper definitions of words.
>     Patrick
>     On 05/11/2015 10:48 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>     To each their own.  You're allowed to have your own opinion...but
>>     that's all it is. Your opinion.  Have a super awesome and
>>     wonderful day!!
>>     On Fri, May 8, 2015 at 9:09 PM, Patrick
>>     > wrote:
>>         Hello, Desiree!
>>         I was going through your old emails, looking for particularly
>>         interesting ones to highlight on the website, and I came
>>         across this one.  Now that some time has passed, and the
>>         world has had a chance to see how much of your words you
>>         actually follow through on, I'd like to review some of your
>>         statements.  Please see my comments, inline.  I've
>>         highlighted the relevant statements to which I am responding.
>>         On 02/17/2013 10:34 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>         Hi,
>>>         I want to throw something out there - I want to propose
>>>         something and I would like for you to consider it.  We can
>>>         continue to go back and forth, tossing this poor kid between
>>>         home, between states in this hostile environment for the
>>>         next...however long.  But the truth is - its exhausting (you
>>>         can't tell me it's not). As well, G***** will turn 18 in 6
>>>         short years. *You and I have very different lifestyles but
>>>         as I've told him - neither one is wrong - it's just different.*
>>         I disagree.  I believe your way of life is wrong - very wrong!
>>         - You use drugs;
>>         - you don't provide guidance and direction to your children;
>>         - you're irresponsible;
>>         - you blame others for everything that's wrong with your life;
>>         - you take responsibility for absolutely nothing;
>>         - you put your desires before the well being of your children;
>>         - you think that providing the basic necessities of life
>>         (food, clothing and shelter) are the only obligations you
>>         have to your children;
>>         - you put your boyfriends before the needs of your children;
>>         - you tell your children that marijuana is good and that one
>>         day they'll learn to appreciate it;
>>         - and on and on.
>>         So NO, you are absolutely wrong when you say "neither one is
>>         wrong".  Your way of life is absolutely, unquestionably
>>         wrong.  It is a sickness and a blight on society (not just
>>         you, all trashy people).
>>>         * Regardless of what you may think of me personally, I am a
>>>         great mother, I am an excellent mother to our son.*
>>         You've had 2 and a half years to prove that you're a good
>>         mother, yet you've done *nothing* with that time!
>>         You've had two and a half years to prove that you're a good
>>         parent and you've done absolutely nothing!  G***** has
>>         learned nothing from you and his life is in no way enriched
>>         or better from the 2.5 years he's spent with you.  You think
>>         that taking him on vacations to meet your family is
>>         significant?  You think that will make him a better person? 
>>         Come on!
>>         Go on then, prove me wrong.  How have you improved G*****'s
>>         life?  What has he learned from you, other than the kind of
>>         women to stay away from?  Is he more honest and reliable
>>         since staying with you (No, he flakes out of a band
>>         performance without notice, he hides his school information
>>         when his grades decline, he keeps secrets from both of us). 
>>         Has his school performance improved?  No, it's gotten worse! 
>>         Does he stick to something that he shows an interest in?  No,
>>         he fiddles with it for a while then gives up on it.  Is he
>>         able to do normal day to day things on his own without
>>         depending on an adult to hold his hand?  No.  It seems the
>>         only things he's improved on are the things that I teach him
>>         and push him to do when he's here.
>>         Am I wrong?  Do you have any evidence to the contrary?
>>         You have him covered on your medical and dental insurance and
>>         I'm willing to cover all medical costs yet you still don't
>>         take him to the doctor or dentist for regular checkups.  Does
>>         he have any cavities?  You have no idea.  Is his blind eye
>>         developing properly?  How should you know?
>>         And you have the nerve to claim you're an "excellent
>>         mother"?  Bitch!  Even *MY* mother provided me medical and
>>         dental care (albeit at the government's expense, but still).
>>>          I never speak badly of you, I encourage him to say whatever
>>>         is on his mind and when he tells me things he's done with
>>>         you or things he remembers with you I always listen - I even
>>>         try to remember good or funny times you and I had and I tell
>>>         them to him.
>>         Really?  From what I'm told you don't tell him shit.  And
>>         when you occasionally do share stories with them they're
>>         usually made up.  I hear about them and he has internet
>>         access.  It's not hard to verify some of what you tell him.
>>         From what I'm told you rarely give either him or Sage the
>>         time of day.  And when you do it's almost always about
>>         something you want to do and you want to drag him along.
>>>         *All I want is time to know him.*  I don't want money and I
>>>         don't care about "winning" in court.
>>         Really?  Then what is all this bullshit you've been pulling
>>         for the past 3 years?  Then why have you repeatedly asked the
>>         court to prohibit all communication between him and I.  Then
>>         why did you withhold my letters to him when I was in custody?
>>>         There was a time that you considered my offer to help.  I'm
>>>         proposing almost the same thing now. Let me keep him during
>>>         the school year for now.  Let me have time with him and you
>>>         can do what you need to wherever it is that you plan on
>>>         settling.  I will not interfere with you talking to him and
>>>         as soon as you're ready we'll work on getting him to see you
>>>         - maybe you pay for a flight out and I pay for a flight
>>>         back.  I have no doubt that you will land a good job and
>>>         probably be making more money than my conservative salary -
>>>         which means neither of us will need money from the other.
>>>         As a safe measure for you (as I'm sure you would need it to
>>>         trust me) if I fail to follow through on what I promise - if
>>>         you feel your not seeing him enough, talking to him enough,
>>>         or don't agree with the person he grows into while being
>>>         with me you can always take me back to  court and have the
>>>         judge return him to you - you and I both know that the judge
>>>         (for whatever reason) is in your court (so to speak).
>>         As I've said recently, the only time you're amicable or
>>         cooperative is when you believe the court (or some other
>>         authority) is going to go completely against you.  You sent
>>         me this email when you found out I was released from ICE
>>         custody and you were sure the court was going to order you to
>>         return G*****.  As soon as you were confident that wasn't
>>         going to happen you went right back to being hostile.
>>         Patrick