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Re: Something to consider
From: Patrick <>
To: Desiree Capuano <>
Date: Mon, May 11 2015 11:00:37 am

You seem to not understand the difference between "opinion" and "fact".  
It might be my "opinion" that you are a bad parent and terrible person, 
but the points which I have provided as the basis of that opinion are 
all facts.  And, otherwise, everything else I referenced are also facts, 
not opinions.

It is impossible to rationally debate with a person who is incapable of 
distinguishing reality, and who refuses to use the proper definitions of 


On 05/11/2015 10:48 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
> To each their own.  You're allowed to have your own opinion...but 
> that's all it is.  Your opinion.  Have a super awesome and wonderful day!!
> On Fri, May 8, 2015 at 9:09 PM, Patrick  > wrote:
>     Hello, Desiree!
>     I was going through your old emails, looking for particularly
>     interesting ones to highlight on the website, and I came across
>     this one.  Now that some time has passed, and the world has had a
>     chance to see how much of your words you actually follow through
>     on, I'd like to review some of your statements.  Please see my
>     comments, inline.  I've highlighted the relevant statements to
>     which I am responding.
>     On 02/17/2013 10:34 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>     Hi,
>>     I want to throw something out there - I want to propose something
>>     and I would like for you to consider it.  We can continue to go
>>     back and forth, tossing this poor kid between home, between
>>     states in this hostile environment for the next...however long. 
>>     But the truth is - its exhausting (you can't tell me it's not).
>>     As well, G***** will turn 18 in 6 short years. *You and I have
>>     very different lifestyles but as I've told him - neither one is
>>     wrong - it's just different.*
>     I disagree.  I believe your way of life is wrong - very wrong!
>     - You use drugs;
>     - you don't provide guidance and direction to your children;
>     - you're irresponsible;
>     - you blame others for everything that's wrong with your life;
>     - you take responsibility for absolutely nothing;
>     - you put your desires before the well being of your children;
>     - you think that providing the basic necessities of life (food,
>     clothing and shelter) are the only obligations you have to your
>     children;
>     - you put your boyfriends before the needs of your children;
>     - you tell your children that marijuana is good and that one day
>     they'll learn to appreciate it;
>     - and on and on.
>     So NO, you are absolutely wrong when you say "neither one is
>     wrong".  Your way of life is absolutely, unquestionably wrong.  It
>     is a sickness and a blight on society (not just you, all trashy
>     people).
>>     * Regardless of what you may think of me personally, I am a great
>>     mother, I am an excellent mother to our son.*
>     You've had 2 and a half years to prove that you're a good mother,
>     yet you've done *nothing* with that time!
>     You've had two and a half years to prove that you're a good parent
>     and you've done absolutely nothing!  G***** has learned nothing
>     from you and his life is in no way enriched or better from the 2.5
>     years he's spent with you.  You think that taking him on vacations
>     to meet your family is significant?  You think that will make him
>     a better person?  Come on!
>     Go on then, prove me wrong.  How have you improved G*****'s
>     life?  What has he learned from you, other than the kind of women
>     to stay away from?  Is he more honest and reliable since staying
>     with you (No, he flakes out of a band performance without notice,
>     he hides his school information when his grades decline, he keeps
>     secrets from both of us).  Has his school performance improved? 
>     No, it's gotten worse!  Does he stick to something that he shows
>     an interest in?  No, he fiddles with it for a while then gives up
>     on it.  Is he able to do normal day to day things on his own
>     without depending on an adult to hold his hand?  No.  It seems the
>     only things he's improved on are the things that I teach him and
>     push him to do when he's here.
>     Am I wrong?  Do you have any evidence to the contrary?
>     You have him covered on your medical and dental insurance and I'm
>     willing to cover all medical costs yet you still don't take him to
>     the doctor or dentist for regular checkups.  Does he have any
>     cavities?  You have no idea. Is his blind eye developing
>     properly?  How should you know?
>     And you have the nerve to claim you're an "excellent mother"? 
>     Bitch!  Even *MY* mother provided me medical and dental care
>     (albeit at the government's expense, but still).
>>      I never speak badly of you, I encourage him to say whatever is
>>     on his mind and when he tells me things he's done with you or
>>     things he remembers with you I always listen - I even try to
>>     remember good or funny times you and I had and I tell them to him.
>     Really?  From what I'm told you don't tell him shit.  And when you
>     occasionally do share stories with them they're usually made up. 
>     I hear about them and he has internet access.  It's not hard to
>     verify some of what you tell him.
>     From what I'm told you rarely give either him or Sage the time of
>     day.  And when you do it's almost always about something you want
>     to do and you want to drag him along.
>>     *All I want is time to know him.*  I don't want money and I don't
>>     care about "winning" in court.
>     Really?  Then what is all this bullshit you've been pulling for
>     the past 3 years?  Then why have you repeatedly asked the court to
>     prohibit all communication between him and I.  Then why did you
>     withhold my letters to him when I was in custody?
>>     There was a time that you considered my offer to help.  I'm
>>     proposing almost the same thing now.  Let me keep him during the
>>     school year for now.  Let me have time with him and you can do
>>     what you need to wherever it is that you plan on settling.  I
>>     will not interfere with you talking to him and as soon as you're
>>     ready we'll work on getting him to see you - maybe you pay for a
>>     flight out and I pay for a flight back.  I have no doubt that you
>>     will land a good job and probably be making more money than my
>>     conservative salary - which means neither of us will need money
>>     from the other.
>>     As a safe measure for you (as I'm sure you would need it to trust
>>     me) if I fail to follow through on what I promise - if you feel
>>     your not seeing him enough, talking to him enough, or don't agree
>>     with the person he grows into while being with me you can always
>>     take me back to  court and have the judge return him to you - you
>>     and I both know that the judge (for whatever reason) is in your
>>     court (so to speak).
>     As I've said recently, the only time you're amicable or
>     cooperative is when you believe the court (or some other
>     authority) is going to go completely against you.  You sent me
>     this email when you found out I was released from ICE custody and
>     you were sure the court was going to order you to return G*****. 
>     As soon as you were confident that wasn't going to happen you went
>     right back to being hostile.
>     Patrick