You seem to not understand the difference between "opinion" and "fact".
It might be my "opinion" that you are a bad parent and terrible person,
but the points which I have provided as the basis of that opinion are
all facts. And, otherwise, everything else I referenced are also facts,
It is impossible to rationally debate with a person who is incapable of
distinguishing reality, and who refuses to use the proper definitions of
On 05/11/2015 10:48 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
> To each their own. You're allowed to have your own opinion...but
> that's all it is. Your opinion. Have a super awesome and wonderful day!!
> On Fri, May 8, 2015 at 9:09 PM, Patrick > wrote:
> Hello, Desiree!
> I was going through your old emails, looking for particularly
> interesting ones to highlight on the website, and I came across
> this one. Now that some time has passed, and the world has had a
> chance to see how much of your words you actually follow through
> on, I'd like to review some of your statements. Please see my
> comments, inline. I've highlighted the relevant statements to
> which I am responding.
> On 02/17/2013 10:34 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>> I want to throw something out there - I want to propose something
>> and I would like for you to consider it. We can continue to go
>> back and forth, tossing this poor kid between home, between
>> states in this hostile environment for the next...however long.
>> But the truth is - its exhausting (you can't tell me it's not).
>> As well, G***** will turn 18 in 6 short years. *You and I have
>> very different lifestyles but as I've told him - neither one is
>> wrong - it's just different.*
> I disagree. I believe your way of life is wrong - very wrong!
> - You use drugs;
> - you don't provide guidance and direction to your children;
> - you're irresponsible;
> - you blame others for everything that's wrong with your life;
> - you take responsibility for absolutely nothing;
> - you put your desires before the well being of your children;
> - you think that providing the basic necessities of life (food,
> clothing and shelter) are the only obligations you have to your
> - you put your boyfriends before the needs of your children;
> - you tell your children that marijuana is good and that one day
> they'll learn to appreciate it;
> - and on and on.
> So NO, you are absolutely wrong when you say "neither one is
> wrong". Your way of life is absolutely, unquestionably wrong. It
> is a sickness and a blight on society (not just you, all trashy
>> * Regardless of what you may think of me personally, I am a great
>> mother, I am an excellent mother to our son.*
> You've had 2 and a half years to prove that you're a good mother,
> yet you've done *nothing* with that time!
> You've had two and a half years to prove that you're a good parent
> and you've done absolutely nothing! G***** has learned nothing
> from you and his life is in no way enriched or better from the 2.5
> years he's spent with you. You think that taking him on vacations
> to meet your family is significant? You think that will make him
> a better person? Come on!
> Go on then, prove me wrong. How have you improved G*****'s
> life? What has he learned from you, other than the kind of women
> to stay away from? Is he more honest and reliable since staying
> with you (No, he flakes out of a band performance without notice,
> he hides his school information when his grades decline, he keeps
> secrets from both of us). Has his school performance improved?
> No, it's gotten worse! Does he stick to something that he shows
> an interest in? No, he fiddles with it for a while then gives up
> on it. Is he able to do normal day to day things on his own
> without depending on an adult to hold his hand? No. It seems the
> only things he's improved on are the things that I teach him and
> push him to do when he's here.
> Am I wrong? Do you have any evidence to the contrary?
> You have him covered on your medical and dental insurance and I'm
> willing to cover all medical costs yet you still don't take him to
> the doctor or dentist for regular checkups. Does he have any
> cavities? You have no idea. Is his blind eye developing
> properly? How should you know?
> And you have the nerve to claim you're an "excellent mother"?
> Bitch! Even *MY* mother provided me medical and dental care
> (albeit at the government's expense, but still).
>> I never speak badly of you, I encourage him to say whatever is
>> on his mind and when he tells me things he's done with you or
>> things he remembers with you I always listen - I even try to
>> remember good or funny times you and I had and I tell them to him.
> Really? From what I'm told you don't tell him shit. And when you
> occasionally do share stories with them they're usually made up.
> I hear about them and he has internet access. It's not hard to
> verify some of what you tell him.
> From what I'm told you rarely give either him or Sage the time of
> day. And when you do it's almost always about something you want
> to do and you want to drag him along.
>> *All I want is time to know him.* I don't want money and I don't
>> care about "winning" in court.
> Really? Then what is all this bullshit you've been pulling for
> the past 3 years? Then why have you repeatedly asked the court to
> prohibit all communication between him and I. Then why did you
> withhold my letters to him when I was in custody?
>> There was a time that you considered my offer to help. I'm
>> proposing almost the same thing now. Let me keep him during the
>> school year for now. Let me have time with him and you can do
>> what you need to wherever it is that you plan on settling. I
>> will not interfere with you talking to him and as soon as you're
>> ready we'll work on getting him to see you - maybe you pay for a
>> flight out and I pay for a flight back. I have no doubt that you
>> will land a good job and probably be making more money than my
>> conservative salary - which means neither of us will need money
>> from the other.
>> As a safe measure for you (as I'm sure you would need it to trust
>> me) if I fail to follow through on what I promise - if you feel
>> your not seeing him enough, talking to him enough, or don't agree
>> with the person he grows into while being with me you can always
>> take me back to court and have the judge return him to you - you
>> and I both know that the judge (for whatever reason) is in your
>> court (so to speak).
> As I've said recently, the only time you're amicable or
> cooperative is when you believe the court (or some other
> authority) is going to go completely against you. You sent me
> this email when you found out I was released from ICE custody and
> you were sure the court was going to order you to return G*****.
> As soon as you were confident that wasn't going to happen you went
> right back to being hostile.