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Re: G***** summer visitation 2015
From: Desiree Capuano <desiree.capuano@gmail.com>
To: Patrick <patrick@desireecapuano.com>
Date: Mon, May 11 2015 10:57:38 am
...in your understanding...(did you not read that part?)

On Mon, May 11, 2015 at 10:54 AM, Patrick 
wrote:

>  Desiree:
>
> Noted.
>
> Claims which do not include a logical or rational basis (such as the one
> provided below, that I am "disturbed and isolated") are meaningless.
> Please provide the basis for such a claim.
>
> Patrick
>
>
> On 05/11/2015 10:38 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>
>         You are completely disturbed and isolated in your understanding
> of events...but I'm used to.  I understand that you feel you have no fault
> or guilt for anything that has transpired.
>
>  That said, if you plan on waiting until June to get his plane ticket, I
> expect that you will NOT whine and complain about how much it will cost to
> get him a direct flight from Vancouver to Phoenix and that the flight will
> be on either Saturday or Sunday and not on a weekday.  I just did the
> search and the flights are currently $312 (US)
>
> http://www.kayak.com/flights/YVR-PHX/2015-07-12
>
>
> On Thu, May 7, 2015 at 6:53 PM, Patrick 
> wrote:
>
>>  When I purchase it.  Probably some time in June.
>>
>>
>>
>> On 05/07/2015 04:37 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>
>> Now - when will I have G*****'s return flight information?
>>
>> On Thursday, May 7, 2015, Desiree Capuano 
>> wrote:
>>
>>> Would you like me to forward you the email thread where I purchased a
>>> ticket and it interferes with your work schedule so you denied it?  Or the
>>> one where I told you flights were cheaper on a different day and you
>>> responded that you didn't care about my financial troubles and it wasn't
>>> your fault that I was a white-trash person incapable of budgeting my money
>>> - and again denied it?  Oh - but you probably have them up on your website,
>>> so you can just go there and read it.
>>>
>>> On Thursday, May 7, 2015, Desiree Capuano 
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>> Actually, you interfered with almost EVERY visitation I had with
>>> G*****; from pulling stupid things like refusing to put him on the plane,
>>> calling the airlines and changing the plane tickets yourself, filing for a
>>> restraining order the day prior to visitation, to sending him for a week
>>> with nothing but the clothes on his back and a box of Jewish crackers.  You
>>> and he decided that he would not participate in any event over Christmas
>>> break (including eating dinner) because he was 'Jewish' and it was against
>>> his religion.  You sure as hell never permitted me to have him for a
>>> visitation without return plans solidified.  I believe I have been
>>> extremely accommodating to you, given the hardship you caused me while you
>>> had partial custody.   Where's your argument again?
>>>
>>> On Thursday, May 7, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> Get this through your fucking head: Fuck you!  I will not bow down to
>>> your ridiculous requirements.  I have provided you G*****'s flight
>>> information and that is all I am going to do.  If you had a history of
>>> being reasonable and civilized then I might be more accommodating, but you
>>> don't!  Your history is filled with backstabbing, lying, forcing people to
>>> do what you want, throwing fits when you don't get your way, and doing
>>> things that harm innocent bystanders just to get what you want.
>>>
>>> You cannot claim to be concerned about G*****'s well being or safety
>>> when he's been with you for over 2 years and you've not fulfilled any of
>>> your parental obligations to him.  You have no concern for his well being
>>> and safety UNTIL it comes to his visitation with me.  You allowed
>>> Kristopher to take him along while he was high out of his fucking mind on
>>> meth, committing crimes, yet you pretend to be concerned about his safety
>>> with me?  Get a fucking clue you stupid bitch!  You keep drugs in the home
>>> and you fill his head with your racist, anti-immigrant bullshit, but you
>>> say I'm cause for concern?
>>>
>>> As I've said, this discussion is done!  I dare you to not let G*****
>>> catch his flights on May 24th and May 28th.  When G***** was in my custody
>>> did I EVER attempt to interfere with your visits?  NO, I did not!
>>>
>>> Get it through your thick fucking skull that parental visitation is NOT
>>> for the parent's benefit!!!  How fucking narcissistic are you that you
>>> cannot see that?  Do you really think that you're hurting me by doing
>>> this?  I WANT you to refuse to allow G***** to visit so that he despises
>>> you that much more.  Do you think he believes the bullshit excuses that you
>>> tell him to justify your actions?  He, and everyone, sees through your
>>> shit.  Do you think he bought your crap about "just doing your patriotic
>>> duty" by calling ICE?  Or your lame excuse that you keep calling me Ricky
>>> because that's the name on our court cases?
>>>
>>> The only thing that is agitating me about what you do is that I don't
>>> want G***** to have the same shitting childhood that I had, but you're
>>> going out of your way to make sure he does.  All the shit you do is the
>>> same shit that my mother did.  And the end result for her is that I
>>> despised her and had nothing to do with her after I left home.  The same
>>> thing you're doing to G*****.
>>>
>>> Now fuck off and go bother someone else.
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/07/2015 11:01 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> Let me try this again.  You have provided the details of G*****'s
>>> travel to Canada.  You have yet to provide the details of him travel from
>>> Canada to Phoenix.  While I am uncomfortable with him departing without a
>>> return ticket purchased, I will allow it if you provide the date to which
>>> you will purchase his return ticket and provide me with the details of said
>>> flight.
>>>
>>>  Are you refusing to
>>> A. Purchase a return flight for G***** prior to his departure or
>>> B. Provide me with a date that I can expect to receive the flight
>>> information for his return?
>>>
>>>  Please be very clear in your response.
>>>
>>> On Thursday, May 7, 2015, Desiree Capuano 
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>> You believe the court will accept half of a vacation travel plan as
>>> "reasonable"?
>>>
>>> On Thursday, May 7, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> Now that we agree on the definitions of "full" and "itinerary", then
>>> does that mean that you acknowledge that a "full itinerary"  would include
>>> a detailed account, including times of arrival and departure of each
>>> location (not just the airports) the traveller will be during the trip?
>>> That is, after all, a "full itinerary".  That is what I was trying to
>>> explain to you previously when you were refusing to clarify what you meant
>>> by "full itinerary".  You eventually stated that you just required the
>>> flight information.  You are now completely contradicting what you said
>>> previously, and agreeing to what I was saying - which you had previously
>>> accused me of playing word games over.
>>>
>>> Flip-flop?  You just argue whatever point serves your purpose at any
>>> moment, huh?  Even when it completely contradicts the points you made
>>> yesterday?
>>>
>>> Anyway, I'm not playing along.  I've provided you G*****'s flight
>>> information from PHX to LAX, and from LAX to YVR.  That is all you're
>>> getting.  Even that is more than the court would require and it meets the
>>> definition of "reasonable".
>>>
>>> Now, I don't have time for your nonsense today.  As far as I'm
>>> concerned, this discussion is done.
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/07/2015 09:34 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>>  April 26th
>>> ...I will require a *full *itinerary for G*****'s summer trip.
>>>
>>>  May 4th
>>>  I will need the travel plans (itinerary) *all *flights G***** will be
>>> occupying
>>>
>>>  May 5th
>>> The above visitation as previously stated ALSO is contingent upon a *full
>>> *travel itinerary including all flight and travel plans.
>>>
>>>  The term '*full*' means (from dictionary.reference.com):
>>>
>>>  adjective, fuller, fullest.
>>> 1. completely filled; containing all that can be held; filled to utmost
>>> capacity
>>> 2. complete; entire; maximum:
>>> 3. of the maximum size, amount, extent, volume, etc.
>>>
>>>  The term '*all*' means (from dictionary.reference.com):
>>>  adjective
>>> 1.the whole of (used in referring to quantity, extent, or duration):
>>> 2. the whole number of (used in referring to individuals or particulars,
>>> taken collectively):
>>> 3. the greatest possible (used in referring to quality or degree):
>>> 4. every:
>>> 5. any; any whatever:
>>> 6. nothing but; only:
>>> 7. dominated by or as if by the conspicuous possession or use of a
>>> particular feature:
>>>
>>>  So you see - I did require ALL travel itineraries.  However, if you
>>> are having money issues,  I understand.  If you do not have the funds
>>> available to secure a return flight from Vancouver to Phoenix on July 12th
>>> prior to his departure, then tell me the exact date to which you will
>>> provide G*****'s return flight itinerary.  That date will serve as the
>>> deadline for this action item.
>>>
>>> On Wed, May 6, 2015 at 10:05 PM, Patrick 
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>  So no comment on the turning 16 thing?  Didn't think so.  You didn't
>>> realize that when you set this course of action in motion, did you?  You
>>> didn't even stop to consider what the consequences of your actions would
>>> be, did you?
>>>
>>> You had no idea that the legal age to be independent of your parents, in
>>> Ontario, was 16.  And that by G***** receiving Canadian citizenship that
>>> it meant that on his 16th birthday he could walk out your door and never,
>>> ever have to see or speak to you ever again, huh?  And the best part is
>>> that if, before he turns 18, he steps outside of Ontario THEN at that
>>> moment you have the legal authority to have him brought back to you by
>>> force.  But as long as he's in Ontario there's not a damn thing you, or any
>>> US law enforcement agency, or any US court can do about it.
>>>
>>> Now, if he was a US citizen and NOT also a Canadian citizen, THEN the
>>> Canadian authorities would have to send him back to the US.  But as long as
>>> he has Canadian citizenship (which he now has for the rest of his life
>>> (thanks to you for setting things in motion), and he's over the age of 16,
>>> he can live on his own, have his own apartment, get his own firearms
>>> license, his own driver's license.  And he won't need anyone's permission
>>> to do so.
>>>
>>> And, by the time he turns 16, next year, what he will remember is things
>>> like you refusing to allow him to visit and refusing to provide a decent
>>> reason why.  You taking away his property (like video game consoles)
>>> because you say "it's not fair to Sage".  You taking him, by force, from
>>> Liz and forcing him to live in Arizona.  You refusing to let him have
>>> things he, as a child with parents with a combined income over $200,000,
>>> should have.  You refusing to take him to the doctor for regular check
>>> ups.  You refusing to have the anomaly in in his eye checked.  You calling
>>> ICE on his father and having him deported for no justifiable reason, other
>>> than to get custody of him by default.  You never bothering to teach him
>>> things about life.
>>>
>>> I was really hoping to surprise you with this on September 28, 2016, but
>>> I guess the cat's out of the bag now.
>>>
>>> Do you ever get tired of being the perpetual loser?  You ever think to
>>> yourself "what's the point"?  Ever seem to you that maybe life is just to
>>> fucking hard and there's no point because we're all gonna die in the end
>>> anyway?  If not, well, that's too bad - the world is going to be a better
>>> place when you are no longer in it.
>>>
>>> Good evening,
>>> Desiree
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 07:34 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> Please provide me with your hotel information.  I will make sure I am
>>> available for the "pick up" schedule.
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> Either your English skills are horrendous or you really do think of your
>>> offspring as possessions?
>>>
>>> I am planning to accompany G***** to the Vancouver International
>>> Airport on or before July 12, 2015, and being present with him until he
>>> passes through the security checkpoint.  I cannot force him to do anything
>>> past that point.  I also have no intention of, as you say, "returning him".
>>>
>>> G***** is a human being, not a possession.  Neither you, nor I have the
>>> power to force him to do something against his will.  All I can, and will,
>>> do is make every reasonable effort to ensure he is at the airport in time
>>> to board his return flight.
>>>
>>> Why would you even ask such a stupid question?  I mean, if I was
>>> intending to do something like abscond with G***** do you think I would
>>> admit it beforehand?  And if that was my intention, why would I bother
>>> going through all this stupid shit with you?  Why wouldn't I just go to
>>> Phoenix and pick him up?  What?  Do you think it's impossible for me to
>>> walk right into the US?  Do you think they scrutinize me every time I cross
>>> the border?  My god, there is no end to your stupidity, is there?
>>>
>>> And besides, what do you really care?  You only have, at most, another
>>> 16 months until you have absolutely no legal authority over him, anyway.
>>> Yeah, that's right, the day he turns 16 and his foot touches the ground in
>>> the Province of Ontario he is a legal adult and cannot be forced to return
>>> to his parents - because he now has Canadian citizenship - because of
>>> *YOUR* actions.  I don't even need to be in Canada myself.
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 06:46 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> Are you planning on returning G*****?
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> I cannot imagine why you would hear that because I never said that.
>>>
>>> I will tell you this, unequivocally: Since you did not require I provide
>>> the return flight information in order to allow G***** to travel from
>>> Phoenix to Los Angeles on May 24, 2015, then from Los Angeles to Vancouver
>>> on May 28, 2015, and you only brought that up AFTER I purchased the
>>> tickets, then NO!  I absolutely will not purchase his return ticket until I
>>> know he is actually going to be present in Vancouver.
>>>
>>> I have no history of backing out of commitments, or saying completely
>>> false stuff to get what I want.  You do!  You are the one that cannot be
>>> trusted, not me.
>>>
>>> Now, our dealings here are done.  I have fulfilled the requirements you
>>> stated in writing.  You are now attempting to change those requirements by
>>> adding new requirements.  It is not going to happen!  I don't believe there
>>> is anything further for us to discuss between now and when G***** arrives
>>> here on May 28, 2015.
>>>
>>> I have posted all of our emails from today onto your wonderful website
>>> so there is a public record of all of your words.
>>>
>>> Good day,
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 06:35 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> So, what I hear is that you will send me the details of his return
>>> itinerary before he travels on the 24th of May?
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> I'd like to point out that that was NOT one of your stated
>>> requirements.  I told G***** that this is what you would do: you'll make
>>> up a bunch of requirements then, if I meet those requirements, you'll add
>>> more requirements, and if I meet those you'll just keep adding more.  Same
>>> shit my mother used to do to my father.
>>>
>>> Well, it ain't gonna happen.  I met your requirements and I'm just dying
>>> for you to fuck up enough that the court will consider your behavior
>>> egregious.  So far you've:
>>> - refused to allow G***** to visit during one extended school break;
>>> - taken away his phone, cutting off all communication between him and I
>>> for an extended duration of time, without providing me any notice;
>>> - taken away his debit card so I cannot provide him financial support;
>>> - refused to provide him even the minimal level of medical care that the
>>> California legislature mandates;
>>> - continued to keep drugs in the home.
>>>
>>> So, go ahead, refuse to let him visit over the summer.  Give me a reason
>>> that the court will consider justifiable to take away not only your custody
>>> but also visitation.  And keep giving G***** reasons to resent you.
>>> Regardless of what the court does, the important thing is that G*****
>>> grows to hate you and you are doing an excellent job of pushing him in that
>>> direction.
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 05:58 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> If I do not have a travel itinerary for G*****'s return flight to
>>> Phoenix on July 12th, 2015 then he will not board a plan to travel
>>> anywhere.  Are you still unclear as to my meaning?
>>>
>>> On Wed, May 6, 2015 at 5:51 PM, Patrick 
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>  I cannot possibly answer that question.  I suspect what you mean to ask
>>> is not actually what you asked.
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 05:44 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> Thank you for the itineraries.  When can I expect one for his return
>>> trip?
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> At least my insults to you are based in reality.  Surely, you're not
>>> trying to suggest that you're intellectually superior to me.  I believe our
>>> many debates via email show that not to be true.
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 04:46 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> Funny but "stupid fucking cunt" looks nothing like a travel
>>> itinerary...maybe you're confused again.  Do you need me to copy and paste
>>> an example for you??
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Sorry, I meant to say "stupid fucking cunt".
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 04:38 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> Sure...as soon as you send me a travel itinerary.
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> Can you stop being a stupid fucking for even just a minute?
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 04:31 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> You're right, I didn't call every single airline to check their age
>>> limitations for you.  Did you need me to do all of the research for you?
>>> Do you need me to hold your hand through this whole process??
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> Sure, and if he can be at PHX by 4:30am then there's a 6:37am flight on
>>> Air Canada for $395, with a 2:15 layover in San Fran, for a total travel
>>> time of 6:50; or there's a couple of 6:11am Air Canadas for $463 with 2
>>> stops for a travel time of 10:17 and 11:47, respectively; or a 1:43 with
>>> one layover in Denver for $559, travel time: 7:26.
>>>
>>> Do you do everything half-assed?  Can you just go away and shut up?  I
>>> don't believe that there is ANY way that your involvement in something
>>> would ever make it better so why don't you just go to your room and smoke
>>> some weed or something?
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 04:15 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> Air Canada allows it at 12 - I already called them.
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> Do you realize that many airlines now do not let a person under 15
>>> travel alone?  Do you realize how that limits the number of flights
>>> available to choose from?  Do you ever look into things before you speak?
>>>
>>> I am calling airlines right now.  If I am able to secure a ticket I will
>>> let you know.
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 04:09 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> I would assume with all that free time on your hands you would be able
>>> to secure G***** a plane ticket, yet I don't have a travel itinerary.
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>  Desiree:
>>>
>>> Last night I sent you an email requesting what you will permit with
>>> respect to layover duration, et cetera.  Why, when I request clarification
>>> of anything from you, do you always refuse to provide it?  You refuse to be
>>> clear - even when the other party explicitly requests clarification - and
>>> then later you try to accuse the other party of "misinterpreting" what you
>>> meant.  Maybe if you used the English language correctly clarification
>>> would not be necessary.
>>>
>>> Patrick
>>>
>>>
>>> On 05/06/2015 02:23 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>
>>> Once again - I don't see a travel itinerary.  Do you want to keep
>>> talking or do you want to see your son?  Are you seriously suggesting you
>>> would book G***** on a 15 hour flight?
>>>
>>> On Wednesday, May 6, 2015, Patrick  wrote:
>>>
>>>
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