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On 01/27/2015 05:45 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
I can clearly see that maturity is your strong suit.
I've no interest in whether you consider me mature or not.
Did you actually have something of merit to discuss, or is this
another one of your wailing tantrums you have while you go through
some form of narcotic/opiate withdrawl?
Yes, my inquiry regarding whether you had actually asked G***** where
he wants to live, as I had proposed, in response to your statements that
G***** is intelligent and mature and that you respect him, has merit.
I believe that you are so afraid to face the reality that he does not
want to live with you that you will deliberately try to prevent him from
being able to say the words. THAT is the result of the ostrich syndrome.
Honestly if I gave any merit to any of your "proposals" or suggestions
regarding myself or G*****, I'd immediately have my head examined.
You've already had your head examined - in March 2000. And you were
diagnosed with bipolar (manic depression) disorder and delusional
disorder. It was believed the delusional disorder was brought on by
drug use and would diminish over time, however, as we see, it has not.
I actually never said that... Maybe you should work on reading
comprehension. What I SAID was that at 14, the courts were set to
allow G***** to choose.
I turn your attention to your email dated 2015-01-11, at 12:54pm,
wherein you said, and I quote (I actually copied and pasted the
following text directly from that email):
It seems to me that you said exactly that! You habitually speak using
implication and suggestion, rather than directly, so given the above
quote, one must infer that you are saying that had I NOT waived my
rights "a mere two months before his 14th birthday" we would have
returned to court AFTER his 14th birthday at which time he would have
told the court he wants to live with me, and you would "support him" in
However, as we see, when it is pointed out to you that you actually have
complete authority to choose to live where he wants to live, you then
refuse to allow him to choose. Hell, you don't even tell him he has
that option. Seems to me you're just scared of hearing the truth
because it will shatter your silly little fairy tale.
It is unfortunate that you chose to rob G***** of his right and
opportunity to choose for himself which parent to live with. You
relinquished all rights a mere 2 months from his 14th birthday where
he would have been able to declare his choice in front of everyone
in open court. It doesn't surprise me given your repeated
underestimation of his intelligence and potential; simply seeing him
as a pawn and tool to use in your obsessive quest to win me back.
("destroy me" ... Whatever you want to call it.)
I love G***** regardless of what decision he should ultimately
make. I know he is capable of so much, and *will support him down
whatever path he should ultimately choose in whatever capacity I am
Again, for the record since, YOU robbed G***** of that right to
choose by relinquishing all of your parental rights in open court a
mere MONTH before his birthday.
This is where you prove that you are still suffering from dilusional
disorder. It has already been proven to you that there is no such law
that requires the court to grant want the minor wants with respect to
living arrangements. And there is nothing different in the family court
between the ages of 13 and 14. Yet, you continue to make that
ridiculous claim that I robbed him of that freedom to choose by
relinquishing my parental rights.
Though, you ARE correct in one respect: part of the reason I waived (not
relinquished) my parental rights, is because I saw that G***** had
become duped into believing you were a kind, caring person. By waiving
my rights, I removed the court's authority in the matter leaving you
with full authority - so that I could show G***** how you would be when
you weren't being "nice" because of a court order.
But you seem to be confused about what it means to "waive" one's
parental rights. All it means is that at that point in time I don't
believe the court's intervention is necessary. That can change at any
moment - all I have to do is file another petition to modify the current
order. I now have sufficient basis to prove, in court, that you are
neglectful and that you continue to place G***** in danger.
However, I do not want G***** to leave you because of a court order - I
want him to leave you entirely of his own choosing. I wanted him to
stay with you until he turned 16 so he would be so fed up with you that
he would never have an interest in maintaining relations with you.
Unfortunately, he's not going to last that long so I guess we'll have to
go back to court.
All for what? To pursue some selfish vendetta against me?
Wait a second - my vendetta against you is somehow more selfish than
what you did???? You had me detained for 6 months; then physically
removed from the country of my birth; so that you could gain custody of
a child you clearly don't even care about. Yet, in your warped mind I'm
the selfish one???
Otherwise, yes, as I've stated consistently for the past year and a
half: the singular goal for the rest of my life is to destroy your
life. I don't care if I die penniless and alone, as long as I know I
have done everything I can to make your life as difficult and miserable
as possible (within the confines of the law).
Or is the truth that you don't actually want G*****, and merely see
him as a tool and weapon to try and manipulate against me?
I have had that discussion with G*****. The decision to have children
is illogical and serves no rational purpose. I've told him that when
you and I met we both said we didn't want children but as soon as you
got pregnant you said all you want is to have a child. Then when things
got difficult you ran away to Florida...then you went touring
Europe...then you had another child...basically you went on with your
life and forgot about G*****. We've discussed this. He knows my
opinion of having children. Hopefully he will learn from my mistakes
and not get conned by some white trash welfare case who just wants to
pop out more children and dump them when it's no longer convenient.
I would also like to point out, on this topic, I have always kept
G***** with me, even through the hardest times. I accepted my
responsibilities and commitments at all times. I did not run away to
Florida (or anywhere else) to be with an ex-girlfriend and leave him
with my mother. When I was in custody and had no income for four years
I still made sure he was taken care of and got the medical care he
needed and was surrounded by people that sincerely cared about him - not
that lip service, bullshit, going through the motions crap that people
like you and your mother do.
So, yes, G***** knows that I think having children is silly and
illogical. He also knows that I would never turn him away and that when
I say something I mean it. When you speak it means nothing because you
just say touchy-feely, feel good stuff to avoid dealing with the real
issues. He knows.
Admit it Richard... The thought of having to be an actual parent
If it did then it's only because I took it seriously. Unlike you - I
never ran away; I never left him behind; I never put myself before his
needs. It doesn't matter what one "feels" or thinks - it matters what
If his eye was such a concern, why did you not take him to see a
doctor while you had him, you noticed it first.
a) for the 2 weeks he was here, the first week most doctor's offices
were closed for a few days for Christmas; then the second week most were
closed a few days for New Years. The schedules were backed up.
b) his doctor and therefore his records are in Phoenix (assuming you
actually have a primary care physician for him, which I highly doubt);
c) Canada has socialized medicine - it's much like an HMO, if it's not
an emergency then you have to get a referal from your primary care
physician first - there was no time in the two weeks he was here;
d) You insisted that you are a better, more responsible parent than I am
and that you don't need my help. Yet, you haven't taken him for a
checkup or to the dentist in about a year - even though it wouldn't cost
you a penny.
e) It's not my responsibility to take him to the doctor during his
occasional visits. it's *YOUR* responsibility because *YOU* are the
*SOLE* caregiver! That is what *YOU* wanted!
See how you try to use one argument when it suits your purposes then try
to use the opposite argument when THAT suits your purposes? You're such
Sad. Very sad.
As for the rest of your delusional rantings, it is clear you have some
severe mommy issues, transference issues, and a sick fixation on me.
It's obvious you missed me, but it isn't flattering, just very sad.
You should move on with your life, find something that makes you
happy, and be a better person. It isn't healthy to be so filled with
hate (and from the tone of this email alcohol and drugs) all of the time.
Oh well. Then I guess it sucks that I have devoted the rest of my life
to ruining yours, huh?
On Monday, January 26, 2015, Patrick > wrote:
I was wondering if you ever got around to having that talk with
G***** - you know, the one where you tell him you respect what he
wants and you believe he's intelligent and mature and able to
decide for himself where he wants to live and who he wants to be
raised by? The talk which I proposed and clearly stated that I
know you would never do because you know he's going to say he
wants to live with me?
Because, you see, in your emails to me you say G***** is very
intelligent and now that he's over 14 you believe he's old enough
to make that desicion. That *is* what you said. So, why is it
that you say such things but when it comes down to actually giving
him the choice, you refuse? Oh, right, because that would shatter
the fantasy you're living in.
Well, anyway, since you're not going to actually let him choose;
and since I've already accomplished what I set out to with respect
to removing the court from our situation, I guess I shall proceed
with re-calendaring our case so that you won't "have to" give him
the choice. Originally, I intended to have him stay with you
until he's 16 but it's obvious he's not going to make it that long.
By the by, about your medical records: I got them from Pen Mar
(unofficially, of course). That's when you were diagnosed as
bipolar. And, since there is no cure for it and it never goes
away, if you were bipolar /then/ then you're bipolar now.
And, how is it that you've STILL not inspected G*****'s eye and
brought him to the opthamolgist? It's been 2 weeks since I
ridiculed you for being so indifferent toward him that you hadn't
even noticed it and now you STILL have not! How do you live with
yourself, being so full of shit that you claim to love and care
about your children and that you're a good parent? Dude! You're
one of the WORST fucking parents I've ever known! Even MY crappy
mother, at least eventually, would have taken me to the doctor.
Dang, woman, you're a fucking sad excuse for a human being.
Anyway, it's about time I update your web site and put it back on