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Desiree Capuano & James Pendleton
250 E. Placita Lago Del Mago
Sahuarita, AZ     85629
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Re: Your loving home and parental teaching and guidance
From: Patrick <>
To: Desiree Capuano <>
Date: Sun, Jan 11 2015 10:20:54 am

Allow me to also point out: Having previously waived, in court, *all* of 
my parental rights, you now have the full legal right and authority to:
- refuse to allow G***** to visit me;
- take away the phone and every other thing I have provided him, 
including the debit and credit cards (although you do not have the legal 
right to withhold them - you must return them to me);
- cut off all contact and communication between G***** and me.

Doing so would definitely prevent me from being able to have any 
influence on his perceptions, values, beliefs, et cetera and, thereby 
prevent me from being able to have any influence on your home 
environment and the relationship between you and him.  However, doing so 
would also make him hate you that much more and ensure that he leaves 
your home at the first opportunity and never has anything to do with you 
for the rest of your life.

So, you see, again, we've created a situation where you have two 
mutually exclusive options but neither of them do ends favorably for 
you.  That is strategy, and the benefit of long term planning, and the 
benefit of foresight.  Remember also, that all of this was initiated by, 
and is the result of your own actions.  I am where I am because of your 
direct and explicit actions; G***** now has Canadian citizenship and 
cannot be deported from Canada and receives all of the benefits and 
protections of being a Canadian citizen the moment his foot touches 
Canadian soil - all because of your actions calling ICE.  And you can 
say that I've been manipulating G***** but that's exactly what you have 
done countless times with almost everybody you've ever met (that's why 
people always take your side when they hear your side of the story but 
then abandon you when they discover the full story).

I'd also like to point out that, as always, I've been very careful to 
make sure everything I do is within the law.

I've discussed all of this with G***** and I've explained to him what 
my plan is with respect to you.  I've told him if he's uncomfortable 
with any of it then I won't proceed.  He is fully aware that he is being 
used as a pawn in my plan to ruin your life and he seems to be okay with it.

All the best,

On 2015-01-11 9:04 AM, Patrick wrote:
> Good morning, Desiree.
> I'd like to inquire how things have been going with all the wonderful 
> stuff that you are able to teach and expose G***** to which I, 
> according to you, could not do.  In particular, how has that emphasis 
> on "family" been working out?  Have you been able to instill in him 
> the importance of "family" and how good it is to have "family"?  Would 
> you say he's "bonded" with your family?  And knowing your family - is 
> it your belief that that has improved him in some way?  These are 
> loaded and/or sarcastic questions.  I already know the answers to them 
> (otherwise I woudln't be asking), and I wouldn't expect you to answer 
> them, not honestly anyway - given your aversion to reality and honesty.
> From what's been reported to me and from my own observations, so far 
> all you've taught G***** is poor table manners and how to mimic the 
> people around you rather than having your own opinion. An important 
> skill, I suppose, if you live in an environment where people get angry 
> with you for being different.  Say, for example, your home.
> Are you still trying to convince yourself that you have the perfect 
> little family?  Are you beginning to realize, yet, that G*****'s 
> presence there is slowly eroding the happy, fair tale home that you're 
> trying to hold on to?
> I know that by saying this you will react to spite me - it's what you 
> people do.  Am I saying it deliberately, for that purpose?  Is it that 
> I know that you're getting fed up with how he's ruining your fair tale 
> and you've been having thoughts of sending him away before he starts 
> to taint Sage as well - and by stating these truths to you I will 
> provoke you to hang in there a little longer, so you can show me how 
> wrong I am?  Probably.  The longer G***** is there, with his "bad 
> attitude", his indifference toward you and Sage and your family, and 
> his subtle demeanor of disgust and condescencion toward you and Sage 
> and your mother, and your trashy ways, the more it will instill into 
> Sage's subconscious that he is inferior and inadequate.  The more it 
> will slowly eat away at your perfect family.
> Sucks!  Now, on the one hand, you are pulled by your upbringing and 
> years of conditioning, to react in the only way you know: with anger 
> and spite, to want to keep G***** there because you believe that will 
> adversely affect me; while on the other hand, you know I'm right and 
> that I've been manipulating the situation for two years, and that as 
> long as G***** is in your home you will never be happy because you 
> will never have your fairy tale.
> So, you'll show this email to your mother and ask her what you should 
> do.  She's going to say I'm just trying to get under your skin and the 
> best thing is to not respond at all.  She'll say that if you don't 
> respond then I'll think you're unaffected and that will piss me off.  
> She'll say this because she's just like you - after all, where did you 
> learn your behavior from, right?  And just like you she has the same 
> emotional, irrational beliefs that a child inherently and 
> unconditionally loves his mother.
> But!!!  I am relying on your mother providing you such advice. And on 
> you pretending you don't care and that you're unaffected. I require 
> you to insist on keeping G***** with you longer - the longer he's 
> with you the more of an effect he'll have on Sage and the more 
> subconscious hostility will seep into your home.
> In the end you'll take your mother's advice and not respond to this, 
> you'll convince yourself (with your mother's help) that everything is 
> fine in your home and that I'm the one trying to cause problems for 
> you.  Or am I saying that because I believe you'll do the opposite of 
> what I state you'll do - just to spite me?
> Let me ask you this in closing: Has the amount of "love" in your home 
> increased or decreased over the past year?  It's rhetorical - I know 
> the answer.
> Patrick