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Re: G*****'s travel plans
From: Patrick <>
To: Desiree Capuano <>
Date: Mon, Dec 15 2014 3:32:13 pm

This is only an issue because you're making it so.  You have the legal 
authority to allow G***** to spend his visit with any person you wish.  
There is no requirement, other than that which you are imposing, that he 
can only be in the care of a person named "Richard".

As for the death of the original Richard, that was in 1993.  I 
wouldn't call that sudden or untimely.  Also, as I stated previously, 
that is only "to the best of my knowledge".  I do not know for a fact 
that he died.  Maybe he just moved to France.

I'm not going to play these stupid, childish power trip games with you.  
All you're doing is reinforcing, in G*****'s mind, that he cannot 
believe or trust you.  I've already discussed the situation with him and 
he fully understands the game you're playing.  He has told me, in 
absolute terms, that he is fed up with you and with being there and he 
wants to come back with me.  I wanted him to stay with you long enough 
for him to fully realize and understand how terrible of a person you 
really are so that he never has second thoughts about it (why do you 
think I waived my rights at the last hearing).  He has now reached that 
point.  He's been with you two years and he has less respect for you 
then he ever did.  Are you really that clueless that you cannot even 
tell when someone has grown to despise you?

If he doesn't get off the plane on Saturday then we'll be in court next 
week.  I don't believe there is anything further to say in the matter.


On 2014-12-15 3:08 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
> Patrick,
> Would that be a government issued photo ID under the name of Richard? 
> If not, then that would not resolve anything, would it?
> The reason it has become an issue now is that it has only recently 
> come to my attention that you do not possess any form of ID or other 
> documentation linking you to Richard. Further, the sudden and 
> untimely "death" of Richard has reinforced these concerns.
> You state that there is legal documentation in BC tying G***** 
> with Patrick.  Could you please scan and email me said 
> documentation to allay my outstanding concerns?
> ~Desiree
> On Monday, December 15, 2014, Patrick  > wrote:
>     Desiree:
>     One thing I can do, that would resolve any silly problems you're
>     making up to be difficult is to simply send you a copy of my
>     government issued photo ID.  But that would just be too easy and
>     you'd have not way to back out of that, would you?
>     Patrick
>     On 2014-12-15 2:21 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>     Patrick,
>>     I can tell that reading comprehension is not your strong suit
>>     based on your previous response.  Please try to focus here, as it
>>     involves G*****.
>>     Do you have identification (legal or otherwise) that you are
>>     able to present, stating that you are Richard should you be
>>     challaged while G***** is in your custody?  This is very
>>     important because if anything should happen, G***** is not
>>     authorized to be in the care of custody of anyone other than
>>     Richard, regardless of what you may call yourself.
>>     There is a very real possibily of negative ramifications should
>>     this not be the case.  I would prefer to spare both G***** and
>>     you from that.
>>     I am trying to be proactive and look out for everyone's best
>>     interest here.  Please try to be cooperative, I know it is
>>     difficult.
>>     ~ Desiree
>>     On Monday, December 15, 2014, Patrick
>>     >     > wrote:
>>         Desiree:
>>         Please have a dictionary on hand and double check the
>>         meanings of the words you are using before you respond. 
>>         There are no threats (a threat requires a statement of
>>         intention to cause harm in order to coerce the other party to
>>         do or not do something). There is no libel (libel is the
>>         defamation of another through written words, knowingly using
>>         false statements...if something is true then it's not libel,
>>         no matter how defamatory it may be).
>>         Another DNA test will prove, without doubt that I am
>>         G*****'s biological father.  The court has already
>>         established I am his father (through the numerous appearances
>>         we have both made).  You have already conceded I am his
>>         father.  Therefore, there is no question I am his father,
>>         regardless of what name is on my ID or his birth
>>         certificate.  If you'd like we can have his birth certificate
>>         updated to reflect this.
>>         Nevertheless, I AM the person that you have known since
>>         January 2000, as Richard.  G***** knows me as Patrick,
>>         however.  Do you really suspect I am some other physical
>>         entity just pretending to G*****'s father so that you will
>>         send him here to a total stranger?  Are you really that obtuse?
>>         Patrick
>>         On 2014-12-15 12:25 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>         Patrick,
>>>         There is no need for dramatics, threats, or liable.  My
>>>         request and requirement for visitation are and have always
>>>         been quite simple.
>>>         There is no formal documented association between G*****
>>>         and a Patrick with regard to paternity.
>>>         From your previous e-mail you state that I have only known
>>>         you as Richard.  That seems to be a loose affirmation
>>>         of my previous requirement.  May you please confirm that you
>>>         are in fact the person G***** and I know as Richard?
>>>         Thank You
>>>         ~Desiree
>>>         On Monday, December 15, 2014, Patrick
>>>          wrote:
>>>             I might also point out that you stated, not only Richard,
>>>             but also "his father".  There is no uncertainty
>>>             that I am G*****'s biological father.  Therefore,
>>>             again, your argument about naming is not really
>>>             significant, is it?
>>>             Patrick
>>>             On 2014-12-15 6:37 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>>             Patrick,
>>>>             You will recall that In my consent, I expressly stated
>>>>             that G***** is to be in the sole custody of his father
>>>>             Richard and that any other personage would be
>>>>             considered kidnapping and not allowed.  Those were the
>>>>             terms.  You acknowledged receipt as well, but please
>>>>             read below to refresh your memory:
>>>>             "During this period of time he is to remain in the
>>>>             sole care of his father Richard, an no one else."
>>>>             Richard's untimely demise would seem to make adherence
>>>>             to this clause this impossible.
>>>>             Having G***** convey the message was wishful thinking
>>>>             on my behalf that it would be received and met with
>>>>             understanding rather than the venom and immediate
>>>>             rejection that I am frequently faced with.  It was not
>>>>             meant as a form of manipulation, coercion, or whatever
>>>>             "message passing" that you may infer/interpret the
>>>>             intent to have been.
>>>>             All that being said, can we please just be adults here
>>>>             and have some normal issues?  You are correct in
>>>>             stating that the only one hurt by this behavior is G*****.
>>>>             You can be whoever you want to be the rest of the
>>>>             time... James Dean, Marry Poppins, or even the Queen of
>>>>             England.  I really don't care.  It doesn't matter. 
>>>>             Further, It doesn't matter if I believe whatever you
>>>>             are taking to be your present identity is factual.
>>>>             Where G***** is involved you need to suck it up and be
>>>>             Richard. Wether that be a made up or previously
>>>>             assumed identity.  Richard is who is on all
>>>>             pertinent information pertaining to G*****.  Work with
>>>>             me here.
>>>>             May you please confirm that during his time in Canada,
>>>>             G***** will be and remain in the sole custody of
>>>>             Richard?
>>>>             Thank You.
>>>>             ~Desiree
>>>>             On Sunday, December 14, 2014, Patrick
>>>>              wrote:
>>>>                 Desiree:
>>>>                 G***** mentioned earlier that you had told him to
>>>>                 tell me that unless I can provide proof that I
>>>>                 legally changed my name from Richard to
>>>>                 Patrick then you would not allow him to visit
>>>>                 me during his winter break.
>>>>                 I remind you that the court expressly forbids using
>>>>                 the child (G*****, in this case) to pass messages
>>>>                 between the parents (us, in this case).  I have
>>>>                 informed G***** of such and will not accept any
>>>>                 messages from him on your behalf.
>>>>                 I further remind you you did clearly agree to the
>>>>                 travel arrangements previously committed to by me
>>>>                 with respect to G*****'s winter break; moreover,
>>>>                 you may recall me insisting on receiving a clearly
>>>>                 written authorization for G*****'s visitation
>>>>                 plans for exactly this type of reason.
>>>>                 With respect to your request for proof that I
>>>>                 legally changed my name from Richard to
>>>>                 Patrick, I cannot provide such proof because
>>>>                 such name change never occurred.  The name on my
>>>>                 birth certificate is Patrick and the US and
>>>>                 Canadian governments will only issue ID in the name
>>>>                 that is on one's birth certificate.  I'm sorry that
>>>>                 you are only now accepting the reality that you
>>>>                 married and had a child with someone who you
>>>>                 clearly knew so little about (kinda tells you
>>>>                 something about yourself, though, huh)?  I guess
>>>>                 I'm just that good...and you're not.
>>>>                 You may also remember, in December 2011, I declared
>>>>                 under oath, in open court, before you and the
>>>>                 Judge, that my birth name was Patrick.  That
>>>>                 was 3 years ago.  But all of a sudden now it's
>>>>                 become an issue for you?  So, is it an issue
>>>>                 because you finally realize that I've been telling
>>>>                 the truth the past 3 years and you look like an
>>>>                 idiot and you're trying to save face?  Has there
>>>>                 been anything that you accused me of that actually
>>>>                 turned out to be right?
>>>>                 As for G*****'s visit: the only person who will be
>>>>                 adversely affected by you not allowing him to visit
>>>>                 according to the terms you already agreed to in
>>>>                 writing, would be him (I am devoid of emotion so I
>>>>                 would only be affected financially but I'm not
>>>>                 going to lose any sleep over the few hundred
>>>>                 dollars for the plane ticket).
>>>>                 Patrick