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Re: G*****'s travel plans
From: Patrick <>
To: Desiree Capuano <>
Date: Mon, Dec 15 2014 2:32:37 pm

All of my ID says Patrick.  You have the sole authority to allow 
G***** to be in the care of any person you so wish.  So your statement 
that "G***** is not authorized to be in the care or custody of anyone 
other than Richard" is incorrect.  You also had no issue with it 
during his Fall Break - I was just as much Patrick at that time as I 
am now.  As for anything proving I am G*****'s father, that's already 
established with the Canadian and BC governments.  There's no dispute 
about that.  It sure seems the only one being difficult here is you.  I 
have no problems or issues - you're the one backing out of what you've 
already promised to G*****...but then that's your thing, isn't it?

If you are going to make comments like "I Can tell that reading 
comprehension is not your strong suit" then at least explain how you are 
drawing that conclusion.  What part of my previous email would be 
indicative of that?

Please also note, that I have discussed this matter with G***** and he 
fully understands what is going on.


On 2014-12-15 2:21 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
> Patrick,
> I can tell that reading comprehension is not your strong suit based on 
> your previous response.  Please try to focus here, as it involves 
> G*****.
> Do you have identification (legal or otherwise) that you are able to 
> present, stating that you are Richard should you be challaged 
> while G***** is in your custody?  This is very important because if 
> anything should happen, G***** is not authorized to be in the care of 
> custody of anyone other than Richard, regardless of what you may 
> call yourself.
> There is a very real possibily of negative ramifications should this 
> not be the case.  I would prefer to spare both G***** and you from that.
> I am trying to be proactive and look out for everyone's best interest 
> here.  Please try to be cooperative, I know it is difficult.
> ~ Desiree
> On Monday, December 15, 2014, Patrick  > wrote:
>     Desiree:
>     Please have a dictionary on hand and double check the meanings of
>     the words you are using before you respond. There are no threats
>     (a threat requires a statement of intention to cause harm in order
>     to coerce the other party to do or not do something).  There is no
>     libel (libel is the defamation of another through written words,
>     knowingly using false statements...if something is true then it's
>     not libel, no matter how defamatory it may be).
>     Another DNA test will prove, without doubt that I am G*****'s
>     biological father.  The court has already established I am his
>     father (through the numerous appearances we have both made).  You
>     have already conceded I am his father.  Therefore, there is no
>     question I am his father, regardless of what name is on my ID or
>     his birth certificate.  If you'd like we can have his birth
>     certificate updated to reflect this.
>     Nevertheless, I AM the person that you have known since January
>     2000, as Richard.  G***** knows me as Patrick,
>     however.  Do you really suspect I am some other physical entity
>     just pretending to G*****'s father so that you will send him here
>     to a total stranger?  Are you really that obtuse?
>     Patrick
>     On 2014-12-15 12:25 PM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>     Patrick,
>>     There is no need for dramatics, threats, or liable. My request
>>     and requirement for visitation are and have always been quite simple.
>>     There is no formal documented association between G*****
>>     and a Patrick with regard to paternity.
>>     From your previous e-mail you state that I have only known you as
>>     Richard.  That seems to be a loose affirmation of my
>>     previous requirement.  May you please confirm that you are in
>>     fact the person G***** and I know as Richard?
>>     Thank You
>>     ~Desiree
>>     On Monday, December 15, 2014, Patrick
>>     >     > wrote:
>>         I might also point out that you stated, not only Richard,
>>         but also "his father".  There is no uncertainty that I
>>         am G*****'s biological father.  Therefore, again, your
>>         argument about naming is not really significant, is it?
>>         Patrick
>>         On 2014-12-15 6:37 AM, Desiree Capuano wrote:
>>>         Patrick,
>>>         You will recall that In my consent, I expressly stated that
>>>         G***** is to be in the sole custody of his father Richard 
>>>         and that any other personage would be considered
>>>         kidnapping and not allowed.  Those were the terms.  You
>>>         acknowledged receipt as well, but please read below to
>>>         refresh your memory:
>>>         "During this period of time he is to remain in the sole care
>>>         of his father Richard, an no one else."
>>>         Richard's untimely demise would seem to make adherence to
>>>         this clause this impossible.
>>>         Having G***** convey the message was wishful thinking on my
>>>         behalf that it would be received and met with understanding
>>>         rather than the venom and immediate rejection that I am
>>>         frequently faced with.  It was not meant as a form of
>>>         manipulation, coercion, or whatever "message passing" that
>>>         you may infer/interpret the intent to have been.
>>>         All that being said, can we please just be adults here and
>>>         have some normal issues?  You are correct in stating that
>>>         the only one hurt by this behavior is G*****.
>>>         You can be whoever you want to be the rest of the time...
>>>         James Dean, Marry Poppins, or even the Queen of England.  I
>>>         really don't care.  It doesn't matter.  Further, It doesn't
>>>         matter if I believe whatever you are taking to be your
>>>         present identity is factual.
>>>         Where G***** is involved you need to suck it up and be
>>>         Richard. Wether that be a made up or previously
>>>         assumed identity. Richard is who is on all pertinent
>>>         information pertaining to G*****.  Work with me here.
>>>         May you please confirm that during his time in Canada,
>>>         G***** will be and remain in the sole custody of Richard?
>>>         Thank You.
>>>         ~Desiree
>>>         On Sunday, December 14, 2014, Patrick
>>>          wrote:
>>>             Desiree:
>>>             G***** mentioned earlier that you had told him to tell
>>>             me that unless I can provide proof that I legally
>>>             changed my name from Richard to Patrick then
>>>             you would not allow him to visit me during his winter break.
>>>             I remind you that the court expressly forbids using the
>>>             child (G*****, in this case) to pass messages between
>>>             the parents (us, in this case).  I have informed G*****
>>>             of such and will not accept any messages from him on
>>>             your behalf.
>>>             I further remind you you did clearly agree to the travel
>>>             arrangements previously committed to by me with respect
>>>             to G*****'s winter break; moreover, you may recall me
>>>             insisting on receiving a clearly written authorization
>>>             for G*****'s visitation plans for exactly this type of
>>>             reason.
>>>             With respect to your request for proof that I legally
>>>             changed my name from Richard to Patrick, I
>>>             cannot provide such proof because such name change never
>>>             occurred.  The name on my birth certificate is Patrick
>>>             and the US and Canadian governments will only issue
>>>             ID in the name that is on one's birth certificate.  I'm
>>>             sorry that you are only now accepting the reality that
>>>             you married and had a child with someone who you clearly
>>>             knew so little about (kinda tells you something about
>>>             yourself, though, huh)?  I guess I'm just that
>>>             good...and you're not.
>>>             You may also remember, in December 2011, I declared
>>>             under oath, in open court, before you and the Judge,
>>>             that my birth name was Patrick.  That was 3 years
>>>             ago.  But all of a sudden now it's become an issue for
>>>             you?  So, is it an issue because you finally realize
>>>             that I've been telling the truth the past 3 years and
>>>             you look like an idiot and you're trying to save face?
>>>             Has there been anything that you accused me of that
>>>             actually turned out to be right?
>>>             As for G*****'s visit: the only person who will be
>>>             adversely affected by you not allowing him to visit
>>>             according to the terms you already agreed to in writing,
>>>             would be him (I am devoid of emotion so I would only be
>>>             affected financially but I'm not going to lose any sleep
>>>             over the few hundred dollars for the plane ticket).
>>>             Patrick